On Saturday, March 1, 2014 at THE ARC in Washington, DC there will be a free educational event for ages 5 to 13.  Pursuing A Dream Corporation (PADC) is a nonprofit organization that encourages students to follow their career aspirations.  This event will focus on teaching students about various career occupations that exist in under represented areas such as:  science, technology, engineering and math (STEM).  Students will get the chance to wear costumes, win prizes, receive a free balloon, do hands on activities and learn more about occupations in areas related to STEM.   Come and join the fun!  If interested then go to the website for more details www.pursuingadreamcorp.org.      

We're Moving and Switching the Format. Will you follow?

Hi:

After much contemplation and debating over a proper blog format, I’ve decided to delete this page here on Blogger and move over to Wordpress. The wordpress page will ONLY serve as a platform for posting Mommy Wisdom Circle events. I intend to create additional pages for my mom chatter (smile). Hope you’ll move to the new page with me. It can be found here

http://mommywisdomcircle.wordpress.com/.

Note, if you’re in the DC area, please join us for a Meetup.

Sunday Post: Age Is Just A Number

It seems as if it were just yesterday that my doctor looked at me and said, “Congratulations, your pregnant”. I recall vividly the expression of happiness that came across my husband’s face while I was having an inner moment of overwhelming joy.  Already having a 5 year old son, we were both excited about the idea of expanding our family.

We let three months pass before we decided to share the news with family and friends as wanted to ensure that we were in the “safe zone”. Well, upon sharing the news, it was met with more questions than congratulations - questions such as: “ Are you seriously pregnant?”; “Why did you two wait so long?”; “Was this a mistake?”; “Did you two plan to have a child five years later?”; “What will you tell your son?”; “How will you prepare him?”. These questions were popping up faster than I could process them, let alone respond. I know (at least I want to believe) that many of these questions came from a place of surprise and not malicious intent.

For years, most of us have been conditioned to believe that couples should plan to have children within 1-2 year intervals and the fact that I was having a child five years later was just wrong (in theory). So, when I was questioned instead of congratulated, I couldn’t hold anyone’s words as an action of the heart, but a mere shift in what their mind was programmed to believe.

During my pregnancy journey, my husband and I explained (and constantly reinforced ) to our son that the well of love  in our home never runs dry no matter how large our unit becomes. And, guess what, he was old enough and mentally mature enough to understand  our words and accept our teachings.

When we welcomed our now 7 week old daughter, our son was (and still is) her biggest fan. He was happy and proud that not only we have an extra addition to our family, but he now has a new title, Big Brother – a title that he owns up to in his actions. I’ve never seen someone so young be so caring and compassionate – it truly warms my heart.

For anyone who has questioned whether or not it’s wise to have significant age gaps between siblings, I’d like to think that I’m living proof that it can work and work well.

The key is to remember that things don’t have to happen the way that they are written in text books or shaped in the manner that we were taught. If my husband and I planned our family based upon societal norms, we may have missed out on an opportunity to hone in on our son’s inner leader characteristics and lost the opportunity to add another love joy to our home and heart.

At the end of the day, we must do what we feel is best for our own lives and let the results write the story for us to hand down to our children and their children’s children.  

*** This article was composed by Patrice Jones-Washington. Its content is original work of the author.

Sunday Post :: Our children are our biggest imitators

James Arthur Baldwin once said, "Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them."

This week, I was reminded that children are our biggest imitators and its up to us to show them the "right" things to do. 

While on my mom-cation (aka maternity leave) I couldn't stop admiring my little bundle. I'd wake up every morning and take pictures of her, mostly with the built in camera on my blackberry as it was usually the closest form of a camera within reach. Well, one day while browsing the internet, I came across some really neat newborn photos - you know the ones with really cool props -- and it hit me, I can do this with my baby. So, I impulsively went out and purchased a Nikon DSLR camera and began taking pics. But, something happened, when I began taking pictures, I noticed that mine didn't have that flair that most of the pictures had that I viewed on the internet. As a matter of fact, the pictures taken from my blackberry actually looked better. And, in true Patrice ADHD fashion, I tossed the camera to the side and found a new project (I signed up for salsa lessons).

Well, my six year old son who became fascinated with my DSLR when I purchased it, has decided to retrieve it from the proverbial corner in which it was tossed and make good of it. He's mastering its features and has become a mini photographer in his own right. I love watching him find objects in our home to photograph and edit using the cameras editing features. Watching him hone a skill that I wanted to learn all because he watched me play with it for a day or so, makes me remember just how impressionable children can be. Plus, the $642.00 bucks that I spent on the camera didn't go to waste.

I share this post as a reminder that we must be careful of our actions because the little people in our homes are watching. In the future, I will commit to being a finisher and not a starter. 

A DJ Might Save My Life Tonight

I think a DJ might be saving my life tonight. I'm trying on shoes which means I want to go out - you know, kid free and loud music!! I feel like I've earned one of those types of nights. Let's do the math, pregnant for 42 weeks (baby girl was overdue); maternity leave for 12 weeks - solely caring for baby girl and now back in corporate America. I didn't really enjoy many "me" moments within the last few months. I think I've earned a day out. You do the math. What do you think? 

Fashion Files :: Feel Bad/ Look Good

Today, I feel like crap. I have a terrible cold, my newborn has a cold and my son can't stop babbling. This week, I'm averaging a now total of 13 hours of sleep and I still have to bring a cheerful spirit to my work in corporate America.

I never said being a new mom is easy, but we don't have to look bad because we feel bad.

In the midst of my stuffy nose and sore throat, I threw on (literally threw on) a wrap dress, necklace, black tights and a pair of knee boots. This fit was fast and effortless, yet looked like I cared -- and today, I didn't want to care.

This week, I've been sharing my words of new mom fashion wisdom. I hope these short, easy fashion solutions are helpful. As always, your pearls of wisdom are appreciated and accepted.

Fashion Files :: Fashion Forward Mommy (It's all about the sheath dress)

Yesterday, I was running on 3 hrs of sleep – this week, I’m averaging a combined total of about  9 hrs.  I came up with this look in less than 15 minutes. The sheath dress was already pressed, the jacket was cotton & spandex, so I didn’t have any ironing to worry about and I just pulled the look together with a pair of boots and a multi-colored necklace.

Looking fabulous as a new mom doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice time – It’s a matter of creativity.

Remember to share your new mom fashion wisdom.